Re-human: Part 2 - Rehumanization
We all yearn to be re-humanized.
To be seen by others, and related to as we really are - greater than the sum of the 'parts' and 'labels' we are so often (and tragically) reduced to.
Most people are familiar with the experience of de-humanization in subtle, and more obvious forms.
At the same time, there is much in life that re-humanizes.
Re-humanization transpires in relationships where we are embraced in the fullness of our humanity. The kind of relationships with people who are at-ease with our darkness and light, with a willingness to extend care from a posture of humility as 'fellow-travelers' navigating the vicissitudes of life.
In rehumanizing relationships, the various dimensions of our humanity are welcomed and honoured. Space is provided for us to be as we are, paradoxically enabling us to become more than we are.
Often these relationships catalyze healthy development in our overall experience of peace, joy and vitality. Likewise, our capacity to love others, to engage in meaningful work, and to experience rest is significantly enhanced.
To be respected first-and-foremost as a human has restorative ramifications not only for ourselves, but also the people around us, and the wider world in which we live.
Through such an experience of relationship, we come to value our unique selfhood while also not losing sight of our deep connectedness with the wider human family.
Of course, like most important things in life it is far easier to talk about re-humanization than to practice it!
So here are some ideas that may assist:
Practice pausing - slow down… even stop! Engage with life as it presents in the moment. Notice those around you, and don't forget to notice your self.
Look people in the eyes - the old adage that 'eyes are the window to the soul' has gained contemporary support. When we look another in the eyes we encounter their soul-ish humanity.
When feeling judgmental toward another (or yourself), transform your judgement to wonder - "I wonder what has led this person to do this?" or "I wonder what is driving me to do this?" Judgement impairs our ability relate to others as human - and it fades away when exposed to wonder!
Practice respect. Re-spect. Look again at others despite the impulse to pass your gaze over them. It is especially important to practice re-specting during disagreements. Look again, re-consider who is in front of you, and resist the temptation to reduce them to an 'opponent'.
Listen, listen - listen! Practice curiosity through active listening.
Seek to under-stand (relate from a posture of humility) rather than over-stand (relate from a posture of pride). This is especially important when attempting to help others. Ancient wisdom has much to say about this - be prepared to honestly acknowledge and understand your own shortcomings, "take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." After all, in both our glory and our shame, each one of us is all too human…